gradmommy at gmail dot com
I am a married 20-something black female dual-degree graduate/professional student in the social sciences. I have two children, a daughter named Little A, born in August 2007 and a son named Big A, born January 2006.
I love music, especially singing, reading, crossword puzzles and yoga.
I study parenting as a tool of social reproduction, and how it interacts with other institutions, especially education and law.
I am learning how to be a good mommy and a good wife and a good student and a good daughter, friend, and citizen of the world. My husband says I treat everyone like family but I’m afraid that sometimes that means I don’t give my real family what they need from me. I’m writing this blog and CocoaMamas.com to work through some of these issues, share some of my day-to-day drama (or blessings, depending on how you look at it), comment on goings-on in the world or in my backyard, and in general do some writing that will hopefully inspire me to write in ways that will help my career and make me a better mother.
I strive to be an open book, and will talk about my struggles with chronic pain, mental illness, and the stress of being a black woman and mother in academia trying to make a black marriage work and raise two well-adjusted, culturally aware and God-knowing and trusting children. I believe that my life is not my own, so that what I go through I share with others because we are all a part of one consciousness, one family, one Self. I do what I do to provide for my family, but my goal is always to do less “doing” and do more “being.”